Okay, so let's start by saying I totally identify with HBO's "Girls." I don't see myself in any of the characters because thank Seitan I am not 24 anymore. But, being a starving artist in Brooklyn for the last 5 years, I have been in some of their circumstances and so I can sympathize.
So this post is about Hannah + Adam. I read a lot of blogs regarding this show, but I wanna first give my initial, biased view of this particular situation and its plausibility. (My experiences in this post concern events from May 2010 to October 2011 - NOT anyone current or recent.)
1.) A lot of bloggers wonder what Hannah sees in Adam because he gets free money and doesn't have a job. Who the fuck has a job nowadays? Aside from the economy being shiite, isn't that why my peers and I moved to New York - to not have a job. We want to be the bohemian hipsters of Rent - stealing electricity, living off ramen, vodka, and art. Adam embodies that spirit and, plus, he doesn't have to be a waiter to pay the bills. That's the fucking dream. Who wouldn't want to date a guy that has all that going for him? Who doesn't want to be that guy? I mean, in reality Adam is pathetic and will never be a successful carpenter/actor, but the idea of him is cool.
2.) A lot of bloggers wonder why Hannah puts up with Adam's romantic aloofness. It's because it fits her character. Who works at an unpaid internship for that long? I realize New York is a super dick about making you work for free before hiring you, but a year is just ridiculous. And a six page memoir that's probably double-spaced? Where's the fucking effort? And where's the Fucking effort? What makes viewers think she would work any harder at a meaningful relationship than she does at her job or career or sex life. And what makes you think that she deserves a Charlie-esque character swooping in and rescuing her from her sad sack existence. So deal with it for now that of course she has a thing like Adam. Most girls have or have had that. And then we grow up.
3.) Don't get me wrong, Adam is a terrible nonboyfriend/fuckbuddy. But he's also a pretty accurate depiction of what is out there in the Williamsburg/Greenpoint/Bushwick. There is a pervasive mentality about hipster boys that "any kind of commitment is too much like marriage and I can't take the pressure/expectations." A lot of girls I know don't really want commitment either, or at least not right away. We'd rather focus on our careers over dating. But the boys we date think that we are in love with them and they have to be mean or neglectful so we don't get too attached. So suddenly returning a text in an appropriate amount of time becomes "too much commitment." But really we just need to fit you into our schedules. It's sad and frustrating, but it's all there is in those hipster burroughs. So you are just constantly being treated like shit. I'm pretty sure Charlie is a figment of all their imaginations. Or really bad in bed.
4.) I have words to say about the whole weird fetish thing. This role playing seemed a little half-assed. Most fetishes I know would not be satisfied with meh. And that was meh. Of all the aspects of Adam's character, this is the one I find most unbelievable. To really have a fetish takes some awareness of your sexuality, and I don't believe his character has that.
So why girls like Hannah do this? Why do we move to New York where jobs are hard to get and most 20 year old boys aren't worth it? Because we all want to be Carrie Bradshaw. We all want to live this fabulous life and fuck fabulous boys and go to fabulous fucking parties. We think that at some point we can make our square reality into this sparkly, circle-shaped fantasy. Fuck you SATC. While you may have taught me that it's okay to enjoy sex and talk about his penis size with your girlfriends, you didn't tell me how hard it was to have an orgasm. Or to even get a guy to ask you out. Or to afford an apartment in the City. Fuck you Carrie Bradshaw; you gave up and got married.
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